Don’t Worry, Be Happy

I thought today that I cannot plan my future because I don't know what will be in my life even in one month. These feelings of panic, unstable life, fear and worries for my future flood my mind. My thoughts are jumping chaotically from one point to another, looking for ways to stabilise this situation even a little bit. Every one of us was in similar position in some state of his life. Some of us learned valuable lessons, some not. First thing first no matter how unpredictable our future looks today there is no need for worry. Imaginary fear and worry are the worst helpers in this situation. They take away your ability to think clearly, make you act inadequate and fail to improve the situation. And another thing that is very important – nobody knows what the future brings and nobody can say it for sure. It depends only on 50% from our thoughts and actions, so do what you can do and leave the other part to God. All seem to bring a risk in our life: taking a new job, going into marriage, falling in love with someone. But as the Russian saying goes: who is not taking risk in his life wont be drinking champagne. So, if you would like to celebrate your successes you should take risks.

How to Stop an Argument

Any argument is unpleasant and annoying. People often regret about words told in the heat of an argument, but very few can overcome pride and admit their mistakes.
Maybe it would be better not to bring up the argument? Let us try to figure out in what ways you can stop the argument.

1. Deeply breathe in and slowly breathe out.
If you feel that mere discontent comes into a loud arguing, spot it and make a deep breath and slowly breathe out. This one breath could help you and your opponent to calm down.

2. Be silent.
If your nervous system is strong and resistant to external distortions, then this method is for you. When the argument only starts, your partner is moaning or disagreeing, keep quite. Let him say everything that he thinks. Maybe he does not need your answers; it just needs to come out!

3. Long live compromise!
Arguments between partners, lovers and friends are very often occurring because people do not compromise. Even if you are very short-tempered, try to evaluate the situation right: whether to argue or not, what could be the effect of an argument on a relationship, and maybe it is better to agree to give up? Of course, this works not in all situations.

4. Turn it into a joke.
Sometimes an appropriate joke turns an argument to none. But it is true, that a joke could heat the air for fights even more. Your partner might think that you make fun of him and who would like when people laugh over him?

5. Change the topic.
One of the ways to extinguish a conflict situation is to switch the topic so that it won’t be connected to the cause of quarrel. Perhaps in a few minutes you will forget how it all started.

If you did argue.
Do not be afraid to admit your fault and apologize. The word “sorry” is a short but very meaningful and important. Think about how important for you to convince someone in something? Maybe it is better to embrace and make up an argument?

How to Love Yourself

We all know that if we don't love ourselves we cannot love other person. The greatest book ever I read about self love role on improving one's life is of Luisa Hey. Her philosophy is built on simple and very powerful laws of love. She teaches us how to love ourselves:
1. Stop criticizing. The criticism has never changed anybody. Stop criticizing yourselves. Please, accept yourself as you are. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. If you approve yourself, you change positively.
2. Stop bully yourselves with you own thoughts. This is a terrible way of life.
Look for an image that is pleasant for you (for me this are yellow roses), and immediately switch from frightening thoughts to you enjoyable ones.
3. Be gentle, kind and patient. Be generous with yourself. Be kind to yourself.
Be patient as you learn a new way of thinking. Treat yourself as you would treat people that you truly love.
4. Be kind to your mind. To hate oneself is to hate your own thoughts. Don't do this. It is better to change them.
5. Praise yourselves. Criticism destroys the inner spirit. Praise strengthens it.
Praise yourself as much as possible. Tell yourself how well you manage each trifle.
6. Support yourself. Find ways to support yourselves refer to friends and let them help you.
It is natural to ask for help when you need it.
7. Love your weaknesses. Recognise that you have created them to meet some of your own needs. Now you are looking for more positive ways to meet your needs. So, gently get rid of the old negative behaviour.
8. Take care of your body. Learn how to eat right. What food needs your body for optimum energy and vitality? Learn exercise. Which will bring you pleasure? Love and respect the house where you live.
9. Work with mirror. Look more often into your eyes. Express the growing sense of self-love.
Looking in the mirror, forgive yourselves. At least once a day say to yourself: “I love you. I really love you.”
10. Do it now. Do not wait until you lose weight, find a new job or new relationship est.
Start now and do everything you can.

Respect in a Relationship

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Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other one is, understands and would never challenge the other person’s boundaries. Love and respect should always exist together. When you love somebody, you make only good things to them. When you respect somebody, you acknowledge the right of the person to decide about what is actually good for them. Combining both feeling together you help your partner to fulfill his/her choice (in case it doesn’t contradict any of your own principles). But it is terrible if the first exists without the second.

Sometimes we are missing in our relationship listening in non-judgmental manner and an attempt to understand and affirm other’s emotions. If one partner’s self-respect is higher than the other’s it could easily lead to controlling and dominating behaviour of that one partner. Boundaries of self-respect are connected with set of values and beliefs in one’s life rather than feelings. When someone loves you, you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself. You are not meant to be feeling intimidated or controlled. Someone who loves you should help you to feel good about yourself. This is respect in a relationship which is the main key to a healthy, successful relationship.

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life is the art of drawing without an eraser…..

what you get by reaching your destinnation is not as important as , what you becom by reaching your destination

life is the art of drawing without an eraser….. so make a lines properly
we learn wisom from failure much more than from success, we often discover what will do by finding , out what will not do and probaply he who never made a mistake, never made a discovery.
life is made of millions of movements but we live only one of these movement at a time , as we begin to change this movement , we begin to change our lives.
purpose of life is live a life of purpose.

life like rainbow

Hey Friends!!

Just like the rainbow, Love also has so many colours, with each & every colour having their own meaning & value in everyone's life...just like --

Red Love - Red love is the most beautiful love in this world. This is for the soul-mates & life partners. This is observed in so many things like mehandi, sindoor, etc. Red is also the sign of alarm...

Yellow Love - Yellow love is for those who maintain & keeps up the beauty of purity, sanctity & decorum of their relationship with mutual respect & sharing. Who else other than friends could be blessed with this sacred love! This love is for real friends.

Green Love - Love traffic open for everyone. This is like mother nature's love where there is equal love for everyone around us.

White Love- White love is most often observed under compulsion (ceasefire), service (nursing) & duty. This works good to maintain peace and harmony, can also be called as "Peace Love".

Blue Love - Blue love is somewhat 'sin love', usually observed in pre-marital & extra-marital affairs.

Pink Love - Pink love is blissed for a mother to her baby. This is another boon love to all cute babies. Pink love buds out from the Red Love as a sign of love of the Red-lovers.

Orange Love - Hey! no need to tell about this love....yeah its love towards the nation, that resides in the hearts of every Indian...... "Basanti Love".

So guyz & gals lets share the right colour with our beloved ones.


(but one thing my colour is B&W)